Lawyers under pressure: 'my first encounter often finds a lost and frightened individual who is confused and often angered by having been singled out by the very institution to which they have earned membership and is now being seen as having it in for them'.

In the 12 plus years that I have been working with attorneys, and other members of the legal community, I have come to discover the dearth of coping skills available to them in dealing with the increasing pressures of practicing law. Filled with self-deprecating thoughts, they all-too-often find themselves retreating into the dark abyss of depression.

One familiar scenario goes like this: A young lawyer starting a solo practice gets in over his head on a complex case. Rather than seek the guidance of another more experienced lawyer, the young attorney presses on alone not wanting to be perceived as inexperienced or even "stupid." Sadly, this desire to not be viewed as deficient results in missed deadlines, avoidance of calls from the client, and eventually a formal grievance filed with the Bar.

Or there is the seasoned attorney who suddenly sees a marked reduction in referrals and a diminishing bank account. Having become accustomed to a certain lifestyle and with the unvarying expectations from family and/or significant others who have become used to the "good life," the veteran begins to question the career choice made many years ago. She begins to pin the blame on the demanding clients who appear ungrateful and unrealistic in their expectations. The once successful attorney starts to isolate from family and friends, avoids contact from clients, and spirals down into the chasm of despair. Not long after, an envelope from the Bar marked "Personal and Confidential," arrives in the mailbox. Strapped with fear of certain disbaiment, the envelope goes unopened, further compounding the pressure and stress.

By now some of you know the rest of the story. A Bar investigation produces a report outlining all the reasons the attorney should be brought forth on disciplinary charges. Panic and indignation take over as the attorney begins questioning his character and abilities. Often this is the very first encounter with adversity, as up to that point, the attorney has accomplished nearly every goal set forth in life.

I often ask lawyers this question: "Why did you choose the legal profession?" Most answer with a combination of "prestige," "financial opportunities," and desire for a position of control (i.e., clients come to lawyers for help). However, when the interrogation lights are suddenly pointed the other way, a different reaction takes place. The once invincible lawyer turns into a powerless, frightened victim. It is at this moment when I often...